beloved.

“The unfathomable mystery of God is that God is a Lover who wants to be loved.

The one who created us is waiting for our response to the love that gave us our being. God not only says: “You are my Beloved.” God also asks: “Do you love me?” and offers us countless chances to say “Yes.”

That is the spiritual life: the chance to say “Yes” to our inner truth. The spiritual life, thus understood, radically changes everything. Being born and growing up, leaving home and finding a career, being praised and being rejected, walking and resting, praying and playing, becoming ill and becoming healed—yes, living and dying—they all become expressions of that divine question: “Do you love me?” And at every point of the journey there is the choice to say “Yes” and the choice to say “No.”

Once you catch a glimpse of this spiritual vision, you can see how the many distinctions that are so central in our daily living lose their meaning.

When joy and pain are both opportunities to say “Yes” to our divine childhood, then they are more alike than they are different. When the expression of being awarded a prize and the experience of being found lacking in excellence both offer us a chance to claim our true identity as the “Beloved” of God, these experiences are more similar than they are different. When feeling lonely and feeling at home both call to discover more fully who the God is whose children we are, these feelings are more united than they are distinct. When, finally, both living and dying bring us closer to the full realization of our spiritual selfhood, they are not the great opposites the world would have us to believe; they are, instead, two sides of the same mystery of God’s love. Living the spiritual life means living as one unified reality.”

- Life of the Beloved, Henri Nouwen